Raising Beautiful Messes: The Membership
The parenting support you need right now — to lead your daughter through middle school without losing her trust or your mind.
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Why This Is Different
You’re not failing. You’re parenting in a world that looks nothing like the one you grew up in.
Middle school is heavier than it’s ever been.
Disrespect.
Friendship drama.
Anxiety.
Social media pressures.
The emotional rollercoaster that leaves you wondering who this child even is sometimes.
And let’s be honest — most days you’re walking a fine line between wanting to guide her well… and not wanting to push her away.
Because what you really want isn’t complicated:
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A daughter who knows her worth.
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A home where respect is a two-way street.
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Conversations that don’t end in tears or door slams.
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A relationship strong enough that she wants to come to you.
But no one taught you how to do this.
You’re leading her while also unlearning everything you swore you wouldn’t repeat.
You don’t need more advice. You need a plan. You need tools. You need support while it’s happening.
That’s what this membership gives you.
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What Happens On The Girls' Calls
This isn’t just about teaching your daughter what to do. It’s about giving her a place to practice how to do it — so when real life hits, she’s ready.
Every month, your daughter joins live coaching calls specifically designed for her stage of middle school:
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Grades 4-6: Early middle school — where friendships start shifting, emotions run high, and confidence can feel shaky.
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Grades 7-9: Later middle school — where peer pressure gets louder, social dynamics get more complex, and leadership starts to really matter.
On these calls, we:
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Break down real-life situations — friendships, disrespect, emotions, and boundary-setting.
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Teach the exact leadership and logic skills you’re learning as her mom — but in her language.
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Use the BAM Method (how I teach boundaries) every week, walking through real scenarios so she gets the reps in finding her voice, setting boundaries, and handling conflict before it’s high stakes.
Because confidence isn’t built when she’s already in the moment.
It’s built through practice — in a safe space — so when it’s real, she knows what to say.
Girls Call Schedule:
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1st and 3rd Wednesday of each month
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Separated into Grades 4-6 & Grades 7-9
Mom Coaching Call Schedule:
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2nd and 4th Wednesday of each month
She’s not just getting advice. She’s getting practice — and leadership skills that stick.
Parenting is leadership. And you are the leader she needs.
But leadership in middle school doesn’t happen through lectures or punishments.
It happens through:
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Timing your conversations for when her brain can actually listen
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Teaching logic instead of demanding obedience
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Building trust while still holding boundaries
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Leading yourself first, so she learns to lead herself
You And Your Daughter's Success Path
Know Your Values
Your family thrives when everyone knows what they stand for. And your daughter? She needs to define who she is from the inside out. When she’s clear on her values, she’ll walk with confidence, set strong boundaries, and lead herself—no matter what middle school throws her way.
Manage Your Emotions
Mastering emotions is the key to calmer conversations and fewer blow-ups. Learn to name, communicate, and process emotions—together with your daughter—so frustration doesn’t turn into fights. We’ll guide you both every step of the way.
Use Logic For Good Choices (Yours and Hers)
Most parenting advice focuses on rules—but what about reasoning? When you and your daughter learn to use logic for better choices, you stop reacting and start leading. This missing piece helps her think critically, make confident decisions, and navigate life with independence.
Eve, Mom of 7th Grader
"I followed the framework, stayed calm, and worked through the process. Later, she snuggled up and apologized on her own. It’s slow and not always easy, but seeing her reflect and take responsibility independently was amazing. Grateful for the progress and for you!"
Why most parenting advice isn’t working anymore
Because it wasn’t built for this generation.
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You were told “just be consistent.” But how, when emotions hit out of nowhere?
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You were told “set consequences.” But what if she doesn’t care about the consequence?
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You were told “keep the lines of communication open.” But what about when she shuts down completely?
The problem isn’t your parenting.
The problem is that no one gave you the real skills for raising girls in today’s world.
This membership does.
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Dana, Mom of Two Girls
“I didn’t realize how much my daughter could be taught to do things for herself, including thinking, and how much confidence that gives her. I am behind, but Nik helps you where you are and we have grown so much already.”
Two ways to get the support you need — based on your season of life
Basic Membership Access
$37/ Month
Expert group coaching, live calls, and every resource — but don’t need private access between sessions.
Join Today!Elite Membership Access
$57/Month
For moms who want private, real-time coaching when those hard situations hit at 3pm on a Tuesday.
Everything inside Basic Membership Access
PLUS: On-The-Go Coaching Calls
When something comes up, you schedule a private 30-minute coaching call.
We work through exactly what’s happening, cut through the emotions and confusion, and build a plan you can use immediately — before the next conversation even happens. Fast. Focused. Real-time coaching while it’s still happening.
You’re not waiting for the next group call. You’re getting direct support in the moment, with a plan you can apply today.
This isn’t therapy. This isn’t just a parenting course.
Therapy is incredibly valuable—it helps process trauma and heal deep struggles. I fully support it.
Therapy helps you heal.
This membership helps you lead.
Therapy meets twice a month.
Middle school happens daily.
This membership is built for the real-time in-between moments — the ones no one tells you how to handle.
“My daughter just got excluded from a sleepover. What do I say?”
“She told me I’m ruining her life again — how do I respond without losing my mind?”
“Her best friend just iced her out. How do I help her process this?”
You don’t need to Google or guess anymore.
You’ve got me in your pocket.
You’ve got a plan.
You’ve got support.
IMAGINE THIS...
One day, your daughter tells you she’s stepping away from drama-filled friendships because she knows her worth.
Another night, she comes to you—not TikTok, not her friends—because she trusts you’ll listen.
She’s learning confidence, self-respect, and leadership.
And you? You’re leading her there—without doing it alone.
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“Life doesn’t slow down for parenting. That’s why this membership fits into your life on your terms. Together we can build the help and foundation you and your tween needs to thrive when stakes are low, so high school becomes a time of practice.
~Nik Bowers, M. Ed.
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